I saw a post on Threads by someone who identifies as a Dominant, and it offered suggestions on how to increase a submissive’s pain tolerance. Honestly, it frustrated me. Not because pain tolerance itself is a bad thing, but because of what it implies - that enduring more pain somehow makes someone a “better” submissive. I’ve talked with so many submissives who already struggle with feeling “not enough” because they don’t enjoy pain, or worry they’ll never find a Dominant who wants them if they don’t crave intense play. Seeing…

Trigger Warning: This post discusses blood, needle play, and other forms of edge play. Disclaimer: This is a personal story about my relationship with blood play. It is not meant as a guide or instruction manual. Blood play carries real risks and should only be done with proper education, safety precautions, and consent. Blood play used to be a hard limit for me. Needles, staples, sutures, even the idea of seeing blood during impact play—absolutely not. I couldn’t imagine enjoying it, and honestly, it scared me. Then I met a…

It's Sunday and I’m sitting here feeling happy, tired, and still a little dazed from last night. It was a big moment for me, and now that I’ve had some time to catch my breath and reflect, I want to share the story of my 400 needle birthday scene. A lot went into preparing for such a big scene. In fact, the prep started long before the first needle went in. My Tops, Learningcurve and Fallen Nina, were nothing short of incredible. We had a conference call a few days…

The Album Cover That Got People Talking Sabrina Carpenter’s new album cover dropped and the internet exploded. She’s on all fours in a short black dress, being held by the hair by a man whose face we never see. The image is provocative, charged, and very clearly styled with a BDSM aesthetic in mind. The backlash came quickly. People said it was anti-feminist. That it set women back. That the generation after #MeToo was throwing away everything feminism fought for. Here’s the problem with that take: it misunderstands both feminism…

I knew something wasn’t right, but I didn’t know how to say it. We’d been in a CG/L dynamic for a few months, and at first, it felt warm and comforting. He doted on me, reminded me to eat, tucked me in at night—it all seemed like what a good Daddy would do. But little by little, I started feeling like I was being pushed aside in decisions that affected both of us. When I finally brought up my concerns—about how our dynamic was shifting, and how his other relationships…