There’s a phrase I hear all the time in the kink community: “I’ve been in the scene for X years.” It’s often said as a way to establish credibility, but here’s the hard truth—years in kink don’t automatically mean someone is experienced or knowledgeable. What truly matters is what you’ve done during those years. Have you actively engaged, learned, and grown? Or have you just been in the background, watching but never evolving? Someone can spend a decade in the scene but never develop their skills beyond a basic level,…

Let’s be honest—jealousy and insecurity can pop up in any relationship, and BDSM dynamics are no different. In fact, they can feel even more intense because of the emotional depth and vulnerability that come with power exchange. But here’s the thing: it’s totally normal. What matters is how you deal with it. If you let jealousy fester, it can create tension, but if you address it head-on, it can actually strengthen your relationship. I’ve personally dealt with jealousy in my own BDSM dynamics, and I can tell you, it's not…

I’ve heard the phrase “age is just a number” so many times throughout my life. It’s meant to be an empowering message, suggesting that age doesn’t define us or our abilities. But as I’ve grown older, I’ve realized it’s not entirely accurate. Age isn’t just a number—it’s a collection of experiences, changes, and adaptations that come with the passage of time. And honestly, that’s not a bad thing. Getting older has brought me many lessons. I’m wiser now, more comfortable in my own skin, and less concerned with what others…