She’s on Her Knees and It’s Still Feminist

The Album Cover That Got People Talking Sabrina Carpenter’s new album cover dropped and the internet exploded. She’s on all fours in a short black dress, being held by the hair by a man whose face we never see. The image is provocative, charged, and very clearly styled with a BDSM aesthetic in mind. The backlash came quickly. People said it was anti-feminist. That it set women back. That the generation after #MeToo was throwing away everything feminism fought for. Here’s the problem with that take: it misunderstands both feminism…

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When Care Turns Controlling: Spotting Unethical Behavior in Age Play Dynamics

I knew something wasn’t right, but I didn’t know how to say it. We’d been in a CG/L dynamic for a few months, and at first, it felt warm and comforting. He doted on me, reminded me to eat, tucked me in at night—it all seemed like what a good Daddy would do. But little by little, I started feeling like I was being pushed aside in decisions that affected both of us. When I finally brought up my concerns—about how our dynamic was shifting, and how his other relationships…

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The Dominant’s Bill of Rights: Holding Power Responsibly

Power exchange in BDSM is a two-way street—built on mutual consent, trust, and respect. But too often, the conversation around rights and boundaries focuses solely on submissives. And while protecting submissives is essential, it’s equally important to recognize that Dominants also have needs, limits, and the right to be treated with care and consideration. That’s why I created The Dominant’s Bill of Rights—to name and normalize the boundaries that ethical Dominants deserve to have honored. Being a Dominant isn’t about control without accountability. It’s about taking responsibility for the power…

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The Ethical Educator Manifesto: What We Stand For

These days, anyone can post about kink online or call themselves an educator. But just talking about BDSM doesn’t mean someone is teaching it in a responsible or respectful way. At Pink Kink, we believe being a kink educator means more than sharing tips or talking about scenes. It means teaching with care, using honest and respectful language, and always putting consent and safety first. We want people to feel seen, supported, and empowered—not judged or pressured. That’s why we created the Ethical Educator Manifesto. It’s a list of values…

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More Than Obedience: A Submissive’s Right to Respect, Growth and Fulfillment

Submissives are often seen as the ones who simply follow orders and serve, but that’s only part of the story—and honestly, it’s a pretty outdated one. A healthy BDSM dynamic isn’t just about obedience or doing what your Dominant says. It’s about connection, trust, communication, and mutual growth. Submission should never mean giving up your voice or your needs. Submissives deserve to feel safe, valued, and supported. They should be learning, growing, and evolving just as much as their Dominant. That’s why I created the Submissive’s Bill of Rights—to remind…

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